Within the world of personal development there is a constant flow of cliches and Coaches are not immune! Getting under the surface of the noise and discovering the truth about Coaching for yourself isn't always that simple. It requires some sifting and then reflection on whether the investment is worthwhile.
Here are a few reasons why I think it's definitely worth it.
1. Avoiding Your Own Echo Chamber
Our own thinking is immersive and our experience is coloured by a multitude of presumptions about other people, ourselves and the world around us. We often pre-judge things and believe our own thinking to be the truth. Although there are often good reasons why we believe our own story about ourself and others, there's also a lot within our own thinking that keeps us limited. We need to expand our understanding and find new ways of seeing ourselves in order to achieve more. A Coach can help you do this. It's their job.
The outside perspective a Coach can bring to you and your business can add a huge amount of clarity. A client of mine recently commented that he felt the breakthroughs he was having during the Coaching sessions were bringing tangible changes in his mindset - particularly with how he saw his employees. His mindset had shifted from expecting others to approach their work just as he did, to one that was much more appreciative of how each individual in his team added a unique set of qualities to the company. As a result, he was more able to motivate them and build rapport with them.
If we want to grow our businesses, develop our career or find new ways to thrive as a person then things need to change. If we keep doing the same things, then we can expect the same results or worse.
It takes intention, will and determination to go against the flow of our habitual responses to life's challenges. If we don't want mediocre results then we need to find a way to transform our responses.
I was with a client recently who had identified several patterns in his behaviour that meant he really felt stagnant with his life and frustrated by the lack of control he had with his business. He wanted a robust and powerful method for change that would mean exciting results that would engage him fully with a new career and a transformed outlook on himself and those around him. We worked together to develop a plan that would ensure the right changes would happen, over a six-month period. He knew he couldn't do this on his own and that he needed to invest in himself in order to create what he wanted. After the Coaching programme had finished he confirmed to me that his relationship with his business has transformed completely - he was now in control of his business and not the other way round. In addition the stagnation he had felt in other areas of his life had shifted too.
The secret to this change is really in the mindset behind the behaviours. Once the mindset changes then everything changes.
3. No Investment, No Return
Without investment, there can be no return. It's a simple fact that many people considering Coaching don't fully appreciate. Often we tend to look at the pain of having to make a decision, rather than the joy of focussing on the desired result.
One thing to consider is that when we don't exercise our health is likely to get worse, not stay the same. I think it's the same with our mind. Our habits get stronger and our thinking becomes entrenched. It feels like we are meeting the same problems all the time and we get disheartened.
We need new insights. We need fresh thinking. We need to be challenged and supported.
A potential client of mine was a millionaire. She had built up a successful drinks company and was in the position not to have to work anymore. But, despite her success, she couldn't see how investing in a Coaching programme would work for her - even though she had the sense of her life being rudderless with a sense of disconnect between that and her goals around social justice. Despite my best efforts she just couldn't make the connection. And that's was completely fine with me. Any decision needs to come from within, but the outcome is clear - no action, no courage, no investment = things stay the same.
4. Amplify Your Own Wisdom
Let's face it, life is sometimes confusing. Through sharing our experience with a qualified Coach we can gain clarity on our predicament and begin to see what the best decisions are for ourselves. It's not the job of a Coach to sit in judgement over us, it's their job to listen and ask the right questions so we can develop our own wisdom in a way that is impossible to do on our own. Add to this an understanding of how the human mind works (something that not all Coaches have) then you can make incredible progress.
5. Test Your Goals
When it comes to our ideas about what is realistic and what isn't we need to test them out. With a Coach, you get that opportunity to troubleshoot your ideas and develop a plan to achieve goals in a way that is enjoyable and realistic. We can't stay in our heads when it comes to testing our goals. We need to find a way to move beyond the pipe-dreams and into a workable, energising plan.
Try Before You Buy
Engaging a Coach means commitment of money and time. You need to find the right one for you, so it's a good idea to spend some quality time with a prospective Coach. If you want to try my Coaching you can book a free session and make an informed, pressure-free decision.